5 things to stop saying to a child with ADHD

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, more widely known as ADHD , is among the most common mental disorders in children and teens. Not just children and teens, plenty of adults have it too. According to a national survey of parents using data from 2022, an estimated 7 million (11.4%) U.S. children aged 3–17 years have ever been diagnosed with ADHD.


What is ADHD?

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects how the brain processes information. It's characterized by symptoms of inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity.

How common is ADHD?

ADHD is a common neurodevelopmental disorder in children, with an estimated 1 in 9 U.S. children having been diagnosed with it, and boys being diagnosed more often than girls.

The average age of ADHD diagnosis is 7 years old. Symptoms of ADHD typically first appear between the ages of 3 and 6. Boys (15%) are more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD than girls (8%). About 6 in 10 children had moderate or severe ADHD. Despite these concerning numbers, ADHD is nowhere near ‘under control’. Rather, the graph is inclining upward.



Symptoms of ADHD in kids:

In children with ADHD, symptoms often present as inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity, which can manifest as difficulty focusing, restlessness, and acting without thinking.

Here's a more detailed look at these symptoms:

Inattention:

Difficulty paying attention: Struggling to focus on tasks, easily distracted, and having trouble listening or following instructions.

Forgetfulness: Often forgetting everyday tasks, losing things, and having difficulty staying organized.

Careless mistakes: Making mistakes due to not paying close attention to details.

Avoiding tasks that require sustained mental effort: Finding it hard to do homework or other tasks that require focus, unless they are something they enjoy.

Daydreaming: Frequently appearing to be lost in thought or daydreaming.


Hyperactivity:

Excessive physical movement: Fidgeting, squirming, and having trouble staying seated.

Restlessness: Feeling constantly "on the go" or having difficulty staying still.

Talking excessively: Talking too much or interrupting conversations.

Difficulty playing quietly: Having trouble with quiet activities or hobbies.

Blurting out answers: Answering questions before they are fully asked or interrupting others.

Impulsivity:

Acting without thinking: Acting impulsively or without considering the consequences of their actions.

Difficulty waiting their turn: Having trouble waiting for their turn in games or conversations.

Interrupting others: Interrupting conversations, games, or activities.

Losing control of emotions: Experiencing difficulty managing their emotions or having emotional outbursts.



What NOT to say to a kid with ADHD?

To support a child with ADHD , avoid phrases that dismiss their struggles, like "just focus" or "you'll outgrow it". Instead, focus on understanding their challenges and offering practical solutions and encouragement.

Here are 5 things to stop saying to a child with ADHD:

"Just focus" or "Stop fidgeting":

These phrases can be frustrating and dismissive, as ADHD makes sustained focus and controlling impulses difficult.

"Everyone gets distracted sometimes":

While true, this statement doesn't acknowledge the specific challenges ADHD presents, which can lead to significant difficulties in daily life.

"You'll outgrow it":

ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition, and while symptoms may change over time, they often persist into adulthood.

"Why can't you be normal?":

This phrase can make a child feel different and inadequate, which is counterproductive to building self-esteem and confidence.

"You're not trying" or "You're lazy":

These statements can damage a child's self-worth and motivation, particularly since ADHD can make it difficult to complete tasks or control impulses.