Somy Ali: The Perfect Example of How Exes Should Not Behave After a Breakup

Somy Ali dated Salman Khan during the 90s, and while their relationship ended long ago, she is making headlines by discussing very intimate and personal moments from their time together. She recently claimed that she was the reason for Salman Khan and Sangeeta Bijlani's break-up at a point when their wedding cards were already printed. She also shared that she moved on from the relationship once Aishwarya Rai entered Salman's life.While everyone has the right to talk about their past, Somy Ali's choice to share these personal details after so many years makes you wonder about the limits of bringing up old relationships in public.Publicly rehashing the pastSomy’s decision to openly discuss her involvement in breaking Salman and Sangeeta's engagement was unnecessary and may trigger certain suppressed emotions for those involved. Breakups are painful for everyone, and dragging up the past can only create more tension, especially when it involves other people.Dragging other people into the storySomy just didn’t talk about her relationship with Salman but also spoke about Sangeeta Bijlani and Aishwarya Rai. Discussing someone else’s personal life without their consent crosses a boundary of privacy and respect. Moving on should mean leaving the past in peace, especially when it affects others.Carrying the resentment for so longSomy Ali may have moved on to doing better things in life but when an ex makes such revelations about a popular ex, it makes it seem like it's being done to stir controversy than offering any meaningful insights about her personal growth since the breakup. This can send the wrong message to those going through a similar experience, implying that holding onto the past is acceptable, when in reality, it's often healthier to let go and focus on one’s own future.Breakups often leave us with valuable lessons. Instead of brooding over what's lost, it's important for partners to focus on their personal growth. It's equally important to respect other people's privacy - as it does not only harm your past but make it seem like you are still stuck in the past. Closure is extremely important but not through public disclosures that can backfire. Talking privately to friends you can trust may be more effective - or seek professional help to heal the heart and mind.